For the newly married, making love is almost unpredictable, as the frequent, spontaneous lovemaking that happens during the honeymoon and during the subsequent weeks after marriage is said to be the new couple’s way of getting to know each other and adjusting to their new status.
For older couples, however, the situation may be a lot different, as the family may have grown, and both partners have settled down to the realities of life, which can sometimes push lovemaking to the back burner if couples don’t make conscious efforts to rev up things occasionally.
While experts agree that daily lovemaking is virtually impossible for most busy people, they also warn that more lovemaking isn’t necessarily proof that all is well with a relationship.
Lovemaking experts say that typically, most couples will only find the time to make love once a week; while some research suggests that happier couples make love three to four times a week. But the question remains: how often should couples make love per week?
Except in situations where couples are trying to achieve pregnancy, a 2016 study by some American scholars suggest that couples who had made love four or more times a week weren’t any happier than those who did it weekly.
They are of the view that not making love daily allows you to find a time when both of you are feeling relaxed enough to become aroused.[i]“The longer you go without making love, the more the pressure is on to make love for longer next time,” the researchers advise.
The bottom line: The only question you really need to answer is this: Are you both happy with the amount of lovemaking you’re having? If the answer is yes, you’re doing just fine.