4) ‘What’s wrong with you? / Why are you always doing that?’
It’s never a good idea to make a negative judgment or a condemnation of your partner, because it will simply reinforce the exact negative behaviours you’re trying to change because your judgments pushes them to isolate from you. Instead of attacking your partner personally for what you don’t like, share what you do like and how you would feel or do feel when they do those things. You might have to become introspective and creative to find out why certain things are so important to you.