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3. Involve as many other people as possible – friends, family, church members, co-workers, etc.
The more you can talk negatively about your partner, the more damage you can inflict. As soon as everyone around you starts forming an opinion – based only on your side of the story of course, the more you can feel justified in your negative emotions and eventual decision to end the relationship.