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6. Spend time with other people of the opposite s*x
Build friendships and emotional bonds with someone other than your spouse. You are lonely. You need to feel adequate and important again. Rather than turning to your partner and working to solidify the connection between you so that he or she can be your safe place, turn to someone else. Repeat often the phrase, “This is innocent. There is nothing wrong with me having a friend. It’s not like we are doing anything wrong.”