10 Reason Women Cry During S*xual Intercourse (18+)

You’re In Pain
It’s possible to experience pain during s*x in many different contexts. If you’re engaging in BDSM with your partner, you may feel pain from the restraints, a ball gag, or a whip. Your body might be contorted into uncomfortable positions. A lot of people who play with BDSM make the distinction between “good pain” and “bad pain;” good pain feels pleasurable, whereas bad pain doesn’t.

There are also s*xual pain conditions like vulvodynia and dyspareunia, which cause women to experience pain in their vulvas of v*ginal canals. If you’re in physical pain, I highly recommend that you stop and check-in with your partner. Loosen your restraints, ask your partner to go lighter on the paddle. If the pain is specifically in your vulva or v*gina and persists, go check in with your OB/GYN.

You’re Confused
Powerplay can bring up conflicting emotions for many people. On the one hand, you’re agreeing to the specific activities you’re engaging in with your partner, and you’re — hopefully — doing them safely and responsibly. On the other hand, some of the specific acts themselves can feel degrading, even though you understand the context.
For example, let’s say your partner slaps you across the face. Let’s imagine you talked about it beforehand, you were on board with trying it, you had a safe word in place, and you practiced appropriate levels of force. Everything was done properly, but at the end of the day, you’re still being slapped in the face. Your tears may be a sign that you feel jarred, confused, or conflicted. Take a break from the powerplay, then come back to it at a later date and have a conversation about your boundaries.