Would you go for Surrogacy or Adoption if you are in this shoe,?

During the week, I met a couple who has been battling with infertility for 17 years. They have tried IVF in many hospitals 7 times and all failed. So she said she heard our IVF success rate is close to 100% and she wanted to see if we could do something different for her.

The woman took me back to her courtship with her husband where she had aborted two pregnancies before they eventually got married. She thought after marriage she would be pregnant, but to her surprise her husband once good sperm became low and could not make her pregnant. She refused the thought of donor sperm until after 7 years of their marriage.

But by that time, her once free womb has been occupied with fibroids. She attempted some IVF and failed with the fibroids. She took to another doctor’s advice and removed the fibroids and still had no positive pregnancy with IVF. We checked her and saw that the cavity of her uterus has been destroyed. No wonder her IVF were not successful. .

So she learnt the truth about her uterus from us for the first time. she is above 40 years and we told her we would not use her eggs for IVF and also we will get her a surrogate mother to carry her pregnancy. So she said, you mean you will get me a ” donor egg , a donor sperm and a surrogate mother? I will rather go for an adoption.

” Do you know my advice to her? “Surrogacy is faster than adoption! Moreover you can get your sister to donate eggs to erase the unknown genetics fear.”