Fear is an extrinsic inspiration. Meaning, it only makes the conduct you want when you’re available or they think they’ll get caught. The more space we give our children to act and feel naturally motivated by their own set of values and self-esteem, the more impactful and more enduring their insightful conduct will be.
Also, here’s the difficult thing about child up-bringing— kids only develop intrinsic motivation from a long procedure of “missing the point or getting it wrong” so they can course correct, return to what they know is correct, and set themselves in it. Slapping your child doesn’t help them learn, however a chance to practice does. Here’s the means by which you can assist them do as such along the way.